Planning is so important to living well with an illness and approaching death.  However, if the plans are not communicated there can be a risk of:

  • fear & upset , while alive or after death
  • shock if someone has made assumptions about aspects of medical care (for example) with which are incorrect


The aim of conversations may be:

  • very specific, to pass on information,
  • or more about emotional support and enjoyment, either immediately or at some time in the future after death.


A conversation can help:

  • to live with illness well
  • to die well
  • to make sure your wishes for care, support and medical instructions are known
  • to build a bank of emotional memories
  • to communicate the administrative practicalities, such as where documents are kept & what's in them


Thinking through what you want to say, and how you might be heard, beforehand can improve the outcome from the conversation.

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